On a day when my friend George (Toad a la Mode and Toad a la Mode Blog) sent out an email alerting folks to an article in the New York Times about pediatricians talking to boys about sexuality and respect, the Houston Chronicle had an article about gynecologists picking up the abstinence-only slack in Texas in by educating girls about sexuality and confronting the questions the schools are ignoring. I thought they made a nice pair and so I'm linking to both in this post.
The first one, Another Awkward Sex Talk: Respect and Violence, looks at how we can talk to boys about these topics without turning it into some Victorian Woman on a Pedestal thing and put sexuality and human needs in terms of respect, trust, and mutual decision-making within relationships:
My friend Dr. Lee M. Sanders is associate professor of pediatrics at the University of Miami
Miller School of Medicine, where he takes care of many adolescent boys.
“Six or seven years ago,” he told me, “a mother said to me: ‘Listen,
there’s no dad in the home and I’m worried about the way I see my son
treating other girls. Will you talk to him about it?’ ”
Over
time, Dr. Sanders incorporated this conversation into his regular exam
room routine, starting with boys around age 12: “We’ll talk about
respect, about whether they feel they are respected in their own
families, the respect they have for their mothers, the respect they see
other men paying to their own mothers or sisters — do you think that
applies to other girls that you meet?
The second article looks at how some parents and pediatricians are using earlier visits to the gynecologist in the age of Gardasil as a platform to giving girls a chance to talk about sexuality and ask the frank questions that appear to be choked off in the public school sex education classes, Sex Education Goes to Doc's Office as Girls Get 'The Talk':
Providing medically
accurate information can enlighten girls receiving limited information
at school, hearing possibly outdated advice from their parents and
trading whispers with friends often riddled with misinformation. The
American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists recommends that
teens visit a gynecologist for the first time at age 13, 14 or 15 for
preventive health appointments that don’t usually involve an internal
pelvic exam...After initial
questions about Vanessa’s general health, Sinacori escorted Elvia Reyes
to the waiting room at her Memorial Hermann Memorial City Medical Tower
office. Often, girls will ask more frank questions without their
parents listening. Conversation topics range from eating disorders and
depression to troubles with heavy, painful periods and acne.